When You’ve Got a Friend in Need

by MSO

When a friend loses someone they love, a friend’s support, not opinions, is the best remedy.

A person who is grieving the loss of a loved one is a friend in need of your caring and understanding.

A very important thing to do to help a friend who is grieving over a loss is to attend the funeral. Attending the funeral and/or wake emphasizes to your friend that your friendship is very important to you, and that you will be there for them through the hard times. You also should offer to listen to their problems. Don’t try to talk too much or relate to everything they are saying, but tell them that you are there to talk and listen to them. This should help put them at ease, and allow them the opportunity to talk about their emotions.

It’s never a good idea to tell a grieving friend to ‘get over it’ or that ‘death is a natural part of life’. Everybody differs in the amount of time that it takes to get over a major loss, there is a fine line between being supportive and insensitive, don’t cross it.

Remember that it is okay to cry with your friend. It will help you get out the feelings that you have also. On the flipside, laughter always goes a long way toward healing. Part of the healing process involves a realization that there is more to funerals than an end of a life; it is also about celebrating that person’s life and achievements. Along with these emotions, a hug or squeeze of the hand goes a long way toward providing lasting comfort.

Making a memorial contribution to the loved one’s favorite charity or cause can also help mend your heart, consider doing it in the deceased’s or your friend’s name.

It is very important that you stay in touch with your friend. Remember to call them often and let them know that they are not forgotten. Try to be the same friend that you were before, don’t let this get between your friendship or make you feel uncomfortable. Take them out for dinner, shopping or a night on the town, show them that the world still is a fun place that has a place for them. Make sure that you do this without being asked, go out of your way to be just as much of a friend as you were before, or even better. Show them that you love them still in whatever way is comfortable for you.

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